We all like to think we know what's best when it comes to navigating our romantic relationships. But sometimes it's necessary to call in the help of a professional — such as a couples therapist or relationship coach — to help you decide which way your relationship is moving, if at all.
LaKendria Ellis of the Houston-based Ken Kounsels is ready to help — by facilitating dialogue, clarifying issues, and guiding you both toward a mutually-agreeable course of action, whether it’s working to improve your relationship or coming to the conclusion that it’s best to call it a day and part ways.
While it may be tempting to blame each other for the problems in your relationship, the reality is that it’s hardly ever one person’s fault. Instead, the problem is in the interaction — the dynamic that you and your partner have developed and honed over time.
The way you two interact likely has very little to do with each other, but more so to do with what you learned about relationships when you were a kid. Many couples have no idea that most of how they relate to a partner is due what was modeled for them in childhood. They may not recognize that troublesome memories are often triggered when faced with a similar current situation. But this knowledge really can change how you interact as a couple. Being aware of sort spots from childhood and how easily they get triggered can help couples to become less reactive and more compassionate toward each other.
Seeking the help of a professional when your relationship is in trouble can affect positive change if both partners are motivated and committed to the process. But be realistic about a timeline. It takes more than a few sessions to shed light on the dynamics and to begin the process of real change.
At Ken Kounsels, LaKendria Ellis will provide gentle, non-judgmental couples and relationship therapy tailored to the unique needs of her clients. For more information on the full spectrum of counseling services we offer, give us a call today.